What is FOMO?
It’s that feeling you have when you’re feeling anxious that your friends are having fun without you and you’re not a part of it. Essentially, it’s the Fear.Of.Missing.Out (FOMO).
Why does it have anything to do with you?
FOMO generally affects young people, especially young men. But what does this have anything to do with you?
As a millennial woman early in her twenties, you fall into the “young people” category, although you may not be a man—unless you define yourself as so, which is perfectly fine.
And I’m willing to bet FOMO runs frequently in your circle.
Have you ever experienced any of these things?
- Jealous that you didn’t get to do something but your friends did.
- Anxious that all your friends are experiencing success in their businesses but you’re just getting started.
- Annoyed that your girlfriends seem to be having the time of their lives while you’re stuck at work.
- Envious that your friends go to fun parties all the time while you’re stuck at home with your family.
No? Just me? Okay.
Anyways, I’m curious. What FOMO events have you experienced? Comment down below.
Circling back to the question about what does this have anything to do with you, it’s because it does. You’re at an age where you’re most susceptible to FOMO.
With the onslaught of Facebook and social media, millennial women are constantly surrounded by FOMO-triggering events 24/7.
You may find yourself tuning into social media more than you think. The next time you’re on lunch break, try to see if you catch yourself scrolling through Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter.
Since you’re surrounded by social media everywhere, you grow accustomed to scrolling through social media. What does that mean?
It means you’re more likely to see friends and family posting pictures of themselves having fun. That’s when you realize that you’re missing out.
A research study shows that it doesn’t really matter where you heard about an event that you missed out on—whether that be your friend or on social media—you still experience the same level of FOMO. BUT. You’re more likely to have heard the event through social media than directly from your friend.
Also, this shouldn’t be surprising but FOMO is a big contributor to how much dissatisfaction you experience in your life. FOMO makes you feel like you have less than others.
In the end, what does this mean? It means that FOMO makes you think your life sucks when in reality your life doesn’t suck that much—at least not as much as you think.
So, Why Do We Experience FOMO?
FOMO stems from unhappiness. Those high in FOMO tend to check Facebook more than others: as soon as they wake up, before going to sleep, and during mean times.
Then, How do We Overcome FOMO?
Here are some things you have the power to control that you can do now to overcome FOMO:
- Social comparison is destructive to yourselves and those around you. You need to build better reminders throughout the day to remind yourself to do it less.
- Stop looking towards social media for happiness. When you’re so attuned to the lives of others, you lose focus of your authentic self and your life.
- Look on the bright side. If you find yourself constantly comparing your life to other people and you notice that you’re constantly feeling down, that’s evidence that you’re paying attention to the wrong things. You need to allocate your attention to the things that matter to you. So, stop paying attention to the negative things and start looking on the bright side.
- Practice gratitude. Look at your environment—the people around you, your accomplishments, the close bond you’ve built with family and friends—and be thankful for what you have right now.